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Suicide Prevention as a Workplace Health & Safety Priority

Know how to spot the signs & what to say

By Frank King

Good news: Eight out of 10 people who are suicidal are ambivalent—they cannot make up their minds—and nine out of 10 give hints in the last week leading up to a suicide attempt. This means that you can make a difference, you can save a life, and you can do it by doing something as simple as having a conversation if you know how. I will show you how.

You may ask why certain workplaces have such a high rate of suicide. There are several factors that put workers at higher risk:

Construction, for example, is a male-heavy occupation, and currently, eight out of 10 suicides in the United States every year are men.
Suicide is the second leading cause of death for men under 45 in the U.S.
Women attempt suicide three times more often than men, but men tend to complete a suicide because they frequently use a firearm.
One of the causes is toxic masculinity. There is an ideology among males where they believe they should suppress their emotions.
Men are often pressured to suppress these emotions, especially vulnerability, which can lead to a deterioration of mental health and difficulty forming healthy relationships.

Some additional risk factors are:

Many are of an age where we see the highest rates of suicide nationwide
Many are veterans who struggle with PTSD
Many injuries are treated with opioids
Recent research studies show that there is a relationship between physical pain and mental health disorders

The problem is a vicious cycle: Workers experience pain, which impacts their mental health, which can affect their job performance. This leads to increased difficulties at work, which exacerbates their mental health problems, and so on.

Again, the good news is that you can make a difference. You can save a life, and you can do it by doing something as simple as starting a conversation.

Signs of Depression:

They eat too much or cannot eat
They sleep too much or cannot sleep
They have trouble getting out of bed in the morning so they are often late for work or school
However, they often rally in the afternoon like they are a different person
They let their personal hygiene go; clothes may be dirty, hair not so clean

What should you say to someone you believe is depressed, or they have told you they are depressed? Let’s start with what you don’t say.

DON'T SAY

Pull yourself up by your boot straps
Turn that frown upside down
Have you tried fish oil? (at which point I go from suicidal to homicidal)

DO SAY

I’m here for you and I mean it
I know that you’re not lazy, crazy or self-absorbed
I know that depression is mental illness
I know that with time and treatment, things will get better
I will take the time and I will help you get the treatment

You must ask them: “Are you having thoughts of suicide?” in a straightforward manner, just like that. If you can’t ask that question, find someone who can. If you can’t find anyone, call me, and I will ask them; my number is (858) 405-5653.

There is an urban legend that you should never mention the word suicide in front of someone who is depressed, because “It might give them the idea.” In fact, the opposite is true. Mentioning it out loud reduces the chance that they will die by suicide.

Signs of Thoughts of Suicide:

They talk a great deal about death and dying
You notice them Googling death, dying or how to die by suicide
Death and dying appear as themes in their artwork, music or writing
They are getting their affairs in order
They are giving away prize possessions
They have been depressed for a long time and now they are happy for no apparent reason (they may be happy because they have chosen the time, place and method and they know the pain is coming to an end)

What do you say if you believe someone is suicidal or they have told you they are?

DON'T SAY

You are just looking for attention
No one who talks about it ever does it
You’re just being melodramatic

DO SAY

Do you have a plan?
If yes, what is your plan?
If the plan is detailed as to time, place and method, will you let me take you to a mental health facility for evaluation?

The question often arises: “When do you call the police?” If they are a danger to themselves or others, you must call the police. But know this: If the police find that they are actively suicidal or a danger to others, they will take them into custody and bring them before a judge, who will determine if they should receive a three-day, involuntary hold. If the judge decides they do, then they will most likely spend 72 hours in a mental facility lockdown unit. And they are probably going to be mad at you, and unfriend you on Facebook, but they will be alive to do that.

You can make a difference. You can save a life, and you can do it by doing something as simple as starting a conversation if you know how. And now you know how.

Frank King, is a suicide prevention speaker, a writer for The Tonight Show for 20 years, a keynoter and comedian. His speaking is informed by a lifetime of depression and he has come close enough to suicide that he can tell you what the barrel of his gun tastes like. He turned that dark journey of the soul into 13 TEDx Talks and shares his insights with corporations and associations. Visit tinyurl.com/39pps8su.